I LOVE LITTLE MIRACLES!

Tuesday morning Dan needed to take the Excursion to work because I had to get his tags renewed and it was the last day (of course). So he left at 7 as usual. At 7:30 I got a call that he had a blow out on the freeway. There was no spare in the car because we were already using it and just hadn't gotten around to replacing the last flat tire. So I took our little Mazda out to him (he had a big meeting at 8:00). He left--very reluctantly (I guess men don't like leaving their pregnant wives on the side of the freeway) and made me promise not to lift the tire myself and that he'd take care of it after his meetings. I sat and waited for a bit for my dad to come get me. A police officer stopped and asked what he could do. I told him my dad was on his way, and that I had to go get the spare fixed and then I'd be back to get my car. He said that once the car was tagged with an orange sticker I only had two hours before it was towed. He was kind enough to not tag it, but warned me that another officer could come by at anytime and put one on. Well I got home, had my dad put the spare in the back of my truck. Then went and headed out to get the emissions done on the truck so I could get the registration done. This was our third try! It passed (miracle #1). I ran back home to do the registration online--thank you technology! A few minutes later my phone rang. It was a sweet member from our ward whose husband happened to see our car on the freeway and wondered if there was anything he could do. (I guess it's pretty easy to spot our big green machine with a line of 7 little kid decals on the back window and a 4EVRFAM licence plate) (Miracle #2) I told her everything was fine and that I was just heading out to get the tire fixed so I could go pop it on. She argued with me, saying a pregnant woman shouldn't be putting a tire on her car on the side of the freeway and made me promise to call her husband so he could put the tire on when it was ready. Oh and an officer had tagged it so he pulled the sticker off to give me a little more time. (Miracle #3) I got to the tire store, told them I needed the tire quickly as I didn't want to get my car towed. They said they'd hurry, but it would be at least an hour wait. So we waited. During that time my brother-in-law called me on my cell. He saw my car on the side of the freeway and wanted to know what he could do to help. (Miracle #4) I told him everything was fine and that I was in the process of getting the tire fixed. He said he'd wait until I got there so he could put it on. I told him it's be at least an hour maybe two and assured him that I knew had to change a tire, no big deal. He's a little (ok a lot) stubborn and said he'd meet me at the tire store in a few minutes. Oh and he tore off the orange tag another police officer put on my car (Miracle #5).
I called my good friend's husband back and told him not to worry about it. I had someone to help me. My brother-in-law showed up. We got our little girls all something to eat while we were waiting. (oh yeah, we had a four, a three, and 2 one year old little girls with us, just to add to the drama) The tire was finally ready, an hour and a half later, and we loaded it up and started to head out. My good friend called me on my cell again and said she and her husband were sitting by my car on the side of the freeway. She said she knew me too well and thought I might try to still put the tire on myself. (Miracle # oh I don't what number anymore, but a lot!) Well I told her I was on my way and that I really did have someone with me to change the tire. They hesitantly left, but not before pulling off yet another orange sticker. We got there fifteen minutes later. The tire went on easily (I could have done it myself, you know) I said goodbye to my brother-in-law and thanked him for his help. Then drove away, but not before pulling off --yes you guessed it, another orange sticker! My day of miracles wasn't earth shaking, but it reminded me what wonderful people I have looking out for this stubborn, independent old pregnant woman and her family. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

Fetal Echo

Friday was our unborn baby's fetal echo cardiogram (try sayng that 5 times fast!) It was recommended we have him tested because of Bekkah's heart problems. I had great hopes of a clean echo, but unfortunately things didn't go my way. We do know he doesn't have an Epstein's Anomaly (one of Bekkah's problems), we won't know until after he is born if he has Wolf Parkinson White Syndrome (another one of hers), as an EKG can't be performed in utero. It does look like he may have a septal aneurysm, or an atrial septal defect. But again, we won't know until after he is born. The doctor said I shouldn't be too concerned (yeah, easy for him to say!) and that many babies are born with ASD's, and have no major problems. He may need surgery when he is older, but again, don't worry. So I'm trying to take his advice. Which is a little hard to do when you google fetal septal aneurysm. I need to stay off the Internet! At least we have a "heads up" this time. His pediatrician and a pediatric cardiologist will be there at his birth so that's reassuring. I guess the bottom line is that I know the Lord will bless us and I know faith and fear can't be present at the same time. So I'll try to enjoy these last few weeks of my pregnancy (I'm not quite so sick anymore) and remember that we are only given what we can handle. I love knowing I have a Heavenly Father who cares about me. How do people go through life without the gospel?!

I Hope They Call Me On A Mission

Sunday was Tres' first Missionary Preparation Class. The parents were invited to attend the first meeting. The first thing I noticed was that in a chapel and two overflows full of young men and women and thier parents, I was the only pregnant mother! Does that mean I'm too old to have babies or too young to have a missionary? I prefer the latter, though my body knows the real truth.

As mothers I think we always feel like we could do better. Our FHE's should be more meaningful, our chore chart should be longer, we should teach more, or lecture less. But what an overwhelming feeling to have your Stake President loving tell you what is expected of your young man, oh and by the way you have 10 months to get him ready!

I think I half expected, half hoped that the 18th birthday would be magical. Somehow he would become responsible, patient, and self-motivated overnight. Since magic didn't work, I guess it's up to us.

I'm not real worried about the spiritual aspect for Tres. He has an amazing testimony. He knows the scriptures better than I, probably better than most. He's read nearly the whole Preach My Gospel Manual. He says his prayers and can talk gospel principals with the best of them. It's the living away from home that gets me. Will he be able to wake up on time, will he remember to wear his retainer (we put a lot of money into those teeth!), how will he deal with the different personalities of his companions, what if he gets lost, or scared, or discouraged.

When I got home I spent some time on my knees. I needed answers to my fears, and what I found was a quiet reassurance that "all will be well, do your best, and I will do the rest."

I know we still have some work to get him ready. He will need to get up close and personal with the iron, among other things, but I know with the Lord's help he will be a wonderful missionary.

IT'S A BOY!

So I'm finally posting the news. Christmas morning we openned up a cute little blue and gray sweatsuit. We haven't had a boy in 7 years so you know what that means...SHOPPING! (sorry Dan, but it's got to be done) The official due date is March 9th, but we're expecting a February baby as number 8 probably won't hang in there all 40 weeks. We can't agree on a name, but we still have a little time so we'll keep working on it.

The Perfect Christmas

Sometimes I get so caught up in the holiday festivities that I forget the spirit of Christmas. I read this story and thought I'd share.

The fragrance of gingerbread always makes me think of Suzie and the year I was going to have a perfect Christmas. During past Christmas seasons, I had always been too busy to create the Christmas traditions I felt would build a lifetime of memories for my family. But that Christmas was going to be different. That year my time was my own, and I meant to make every minute of the holiday season count. I would make handpainted ornaments, home-sewn gifts, beautiful decorations, artistically wrapped packages, and baked goods to fill a freezer. I was baking gingerbread men for the tree the day my nine-year-old daughter brought Suzie home from school.
“Mama, this is my new friend, Suzie,” Debbie announced, presenting a rather chubby, cheerful-looking little girl. Suzie reminded me of a California poppy, with her red-gold mop of curly hair and a freckled nose that twitched eagerly as she breathed in the spicy fragrance.
I took two warm gingerbread men from a pan and gave them to Suzie and Debbie. Soon the two girls were helping my seven-year-old son, Mark, hang gingerbread men on the tree. (Of course, the cookies never stayed long on the tree. The children and their friends ate all of them every few days, and we replenished the supply weekly. As a result, our house smelled gingery from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Day.)
Later, Suzie’s mother telephoned, and in a tired-sounding voice, she asked me to send Suzie home.
The Sunday after Thanksgiving, I was still working on my perfect Christmas. I had decided to mail my Christmas cards early, and so I had spread the dining-room table with Christmas cards, address books, stamps, and green- and red-ink pens with which to address the envelopes. I was all set to start when Mark came in.
“Mama, we talked in Primary today about helping other people,” he told me. “Our Primary teacher said a lonely lady in our ward needs help.”
“Oh? What’s the lady’s name?” I asked, wondering if I had met her.
“I can’t remember . . . something long and hard to say,” Mark said, “but Sister Jones wrote it on the blackboard, and I’d remember it if I saw it.”
He went to the desk drawer and pulled out the ward list. After a moment he gave a shout of triumph. “Here it is!” he cried. He thrust the page under my nose, and I glanced at the name by his finger before turning back to address my Christmas cards. The name was difficult to pronounce.
Mark borrowed my pen and drew a green circle around the name in the ward list before putting it back in the drawer.
“I want to go visit that lonely lady and take something to her. Can we make something for her now?” Mark wanted to know.
“Not today, Mark. It’s Sunday, and I don’t bake on Sundays. Besides, this lady doesn’t even know us. Surely she wouldn’t want a visit from strangers,” I explained. “Today we are going to start addressing our Christmas cards. For once I’m going to get our cards mailed before December twenty-third. If you want to help someone, you can help me.”
In the days that followed, Mark persisted in reminding me about the lonely lady. Twice he asked to make something for the woman, but both times I was involved in other projects.
One Tuesday afternoon Suzie again came home with Debbie. That day I was putting together my specialty: a gingerbread train. Each car carried tempting cargo such as breadsticks, candy canes, and cinnamon bears. Suzie’s eyes sparkled when I gave her a few chocolate-chip cookie wheels to “glue” into place with frosting. She ate one of them.
“I wish my Mom made gingerbread trains,” she said. “Last year she made a neat gingerbread house, but this year she said it was too much work.”
“It is a lot of work,” I agreed, remembering the year I had been too busy with church and community duties to make my gingerbread train. The children had been very disappointed that year, but not this year. This year everything would be perfect.
A week later Debbie came home from school just as I was taking a fresh batch of gingerbread men from the oven.
“Too bad Suzie isn’t here,” she said, biting off one cookie foot. “Suzie loves our gingerbread men. She wasn’t in school today, though.”
Debbie set down her cookie, suddenly serious. “They said Suzie’s mama took too many pills, and she’s in the hospital. She might die.”
“Oh, Debbie, are you sure?” I asked in dismay.
Debbie nodded. “Sally Miller told me Sister Miller was at the hospital with Suzie’s mama all night,” she said. Sister Miller was our Relief Society president.
“I didn’t know Suzie was a member of the Church,” I said, surprised. “I’ve never seen her at meetings.”
“Suzie said they used to come all the time before her dad died,” Debbie said. “He got killed in a car accident this summer.”
“Poor Suzie!” I said. “Her poor mother! And I don’t even know her name.”
I called Sister Miller to see if I could be of any help in caring for Suzie during the crisis. I also asked for Suzie’s mother’s name. When she told me, it sounded vaguely familiar. I hung up the phone repeating the name when a devastating thought struck me. With a sinking feeling, I took the ward list from the desk drawer and turned some pages. Yes, there it was, circled in green ink — the name of Suzie’s mother, the name of Mark’s lonely lady whom I had never found time to help.
Suzie was with us that night when we received word that her mother had died.
I asked myself over and over: What if we had gone to visit her when Mark first wanted to? Would it have mattered that we were strangers? Would she have been a little less lonely, a little less desperate? I thought of the tired voice on the telephone, asking me to send Suzie home that first day we made gingerbread.
When Suzie went away a week later to live with her grandparents, we gave her our gingerbread train. The bright eyes that had sparkled as she helped make the train had lost some of their glow, but Suzie managed a little smile and a thank-you.
A gingerbread train. A very small gift. Too little. Too late. As Suzie took a halfhearted nibble from a breadstick, I saw more than a saddened little girl holding a cookie train. I saw myself with painful clarity: a woman so involved with the things of Christmas that I had lost touch with the very spirit of Christmas, without which there can never be a “perfect Christmas.” I would never again forget.
Every holiday season since then, the fragrance of gingerbread reminds me of Suzie . . . and I cry.
(Linda Rire Gundry, Jay A. Parry, Jack M. Lyon, Best-Loved Christmas Stories of the LDS People, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2003], p. 413-16.)

A LITTLE REMINDER

I took my two little girls to the mall yesterday. Emily doesn't have school on Wednesday, and I thought we'd do a little window shopping. We looked at dresses, ate lunch, rode the carousel and Bekkah just sat in the stoller enjoying the sights and sounds. We decided to spend a few minutes in the play area-mostly because I needed to rest. I get so tired of laying around, so when I have a good day and I'm feeling half normal, I tend to over do it. I sat on one of the benches and watched my girls play with all the other children. A lady next to me asked me when I was due, and we got to talking. She asked if this was my third. I laughed (that was so long ago!) "No, it's my eighth" I replied. I heard an audible gasp from a few of the other ladies around me--guess they were listning in. She asked if we wanted a boy or a girl. I told her my one year old had a heart problem and that really we're just hoping for a healthy one. She said, "you know, having a sick baby makes that statement so true." She told me about her last baby and how she had lost her in childbirth a little over a year ago, also because of a heart problem. It turned out her baby had the same thing Bekkah does which is amazing, because I have yet to meet anyone who's ever even heard of it. Most doctors only read about it in thier textbooks. We chatted a little more, mostly about our babies. She was amazed at how well Bekkah looked. Most Ebstein's babies are frail and underdeveloped. My heart broke for her as I watched my pudgy little girl go down the slide over and over. I told her how sorry I was and that I knew a little of her hurt, as we had lost Bekkah's twin. "Maybe they're up there playing together" she said. Well her 3 year old had to go to the bathroom, so we said a quick goodby, and that was it. I sat and thought about Heavenly Father's plan for us. Why did I get my baby and this sweet lady didn't? Why will Bekkah grow up without her twin? Why do I get to have so many of Heavenly Father's children to raise, when I have a sister-in-law who doesn't get any? Though I don't know the reasons we are given the specific trials we are given, I do know they are there for us to learn and to grow. I know my trials make me a stronger person. I watch other people and their struggles and wouldn't trade in a million years. Heavenly Father knows us, and he knows what we can handle, and what will make our faith stronger. I don't know if this kind lady was LDS, but she reminded me of how grateful I am to know the gospel is true and of the great plan of happiness. And as I drove to my nice home, in my big car, with my beautiful children I gave a silent prayer of thanks to my Father in Heaven for all my many blessings.

EAGLE--IN THE NICK OF TIME

Tres has finally finished his eagle project. He's been a life scout for over 4 years! He might have beat the Salt River Ward Record previously held by Michael Piercy. He chose to work with a park ranger up in Cave Creek to establish a nature trail. He built and stained the signs and posted them last Saturday. Thanks to Brother Green, Brother Brinkerhoff, Brother Gibson, Sister Thurlow, and all the young men who helped out on Saturday (and their parents who gave up their boys for the day-Cave Creek is a long ways away!) He spent all the week working on his write up and getting signatures. We dropped off his packet at Sister Thurlow's yesterday, exactly one week before his 18th birthday. Way to wait til the last minute Tres! But we're proud of him for sticking it out and getting it done. He's changed his project so many times, I'm glad he stuck with this one. He really enjoys building and nature, so I think it made it easier to get excited about (maybe tolerate is a better word, Tres would just as soon sit in his room with a good book as do anything) Anyway, from the "mom" point of view, I'm glad it's over and I get at least a few years break before the next project. Only two more projects to go--unless the new baby is a boy, cross your fingers for a girl!